F3 Knoxville

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Young and Old Unite

THE SCENE:  Temps in 70’s but very humid

F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:
25 Side Straddle Hops, 15 second squat, 10 Windmills, 30 second squat, 15 Iron Mikes (four count), 45 second squat, 10 Baby to Wide Arm Circles Forward and 10 Backward, 60 second squat.
THA-THANG:
Mosey to Stop Sign at North East Corner of Admin Bldg.  20 American Hammers.   Next, we will head west on the road that semi-circles around the Admin Bldg, stopping at each cone to do the listed exercises by the cone.

  • Cone 1:  Ten Burpees.  Bernie Sanders to Cone 2.
  • Cone 2:  20 Hello Dollies (four count). Hop to Cone 3
  • Cone 3:  20 Imperial Walkers (both legs = 1).  Bear Crawl to Cone 4.
  • Cone 4:  20 Smurf Jacks.  Lunge to Cone 5.
  • Cone 5:  20 Merkins.  Grapevine right to Cone 6.
  • Cone 6:  20 Big Boys.  Grapevine left to Cone 7.
  • Cone 7:  20 Side Straddle Hops (four count), 20 Carolina Dry Docks, 20 Flutter Kicks (four count), 20 Squats, 20 Bicycle Kicks (four count)

Mosey back on Semi Circle to grassy area on top of Mt. Everest.  We will stop to do 20 Big Boys and 20 Merkins.  Next, we will run down summit of Mt. Everest to grove of Conifer Trees.  We will do ten Burpees then run back to top of Mt. Everest.  We will do 20 more Merkins and 20 Big Boys.

Next we will go back to Cone 6, do written exercise there and then reverse direction back to Cone 1.

Mosey to monument past stop sign at northeast corner of Admin Bldg.  Stop to take another gander at the river, doing a one minute squat while gandering.  Then mosey down hill to Dragon Tail and on to parking lot at entrance of northern ball fields.  Go to CMU pile.  Men team up in pairs of two.  We will do Dora’s.  While one partner does Bernie Sanders to other end of parking lot and sprints back, the other partner does exercise with CMU.  Then men trade places.  Each pair will do the following exercises with CMU’s:

  • 100 Overhead Presses
  • 100 Curls
  • 100 Rows
  • 100 Squats with CMU at chest

Mosey to AO

MARY:
20 Box Cutters.  20 Bicycle Kicks, 4 count.
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
12 men with one FNG, Hunter Davidson, a friend of Goober’s who was visiting from Indiana.  We dubbed him “Bo Peep.”
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:

Our Future Is In Good Hands

My family doctor, Dan Ely, MD, and I were talking during my annual checkup with him last month.  We were talking about some of the things we are involved in.  He is pulling back his outpatient practice to part-time but still will supervise medical residents at UT Hospital.  He talked about how much he loves to supervise residents as they train and grow as doctors.  I told him about F3 and the joy I find in my relationships with men of all different ages, including men much younger than myself.  I told him about the outstanding characteristics of the men I meet who seem to be so much more astute and mature than I was when I was in my twenties.  Dan and I talked about how it is reassuring to meet such outstanding young people.  We feel like the world will be left in good hands when we pass on.

As a 62-year-old I want you to know how much I enjoy getting to know all of you men in F3.  One of the fantastic things about F3 is the opportunity for older and younger men to have relationships.  Whether the younger or the older man, we benefit from these friendships.  I am inspired by the younger men I meet in F3.  I like to see you younger men facing the challenges you face and overcoming them.  I like it when I can be of service to you in some small way.  I encourage you to seek out some of us older guys when you may need some words of wisdom from men who have struggled in the past with challenges that you may be struggling with now.

I can remember a group of men I used to meet with when I was in my late 20’s.  It was a group of about seven men from the church in Atlanta that I was a member of.  The group was comprised of two guys in their 20’s (another fellow and myself), a number in their 30’s or 40’s, and one in his 50’s.  I gained so much from that group.  We could talk about anything and the attention, respect and love that I received from those men was powerful.  And, the older men, I believe, gained just as much.  There was a bond, a sharing, and we all grew from it.

We never stop growing as men.  I encourage each of you to seek fellowship with your brothers.  A few minutes of talk after a workout can turn into something special.  A Coffeeteria with the guys can lead to discussions and sharing that can be powerful.  Our fellowship has sure been powerful for me, whether with men my age or those much younger than me.  And, observing you younger guys in F3, it is great for me to know that the future is in good hands.

MOLESKIN:
Prayers for Jinxy (who joined us at Circle of Trust as, due to health issues, he did not work out with us.  Fortunately, he is recovering.)  Prayers for High-Heels whose mother died this past week.  Prayers of Crawdad’s wife, Kaitlin, who had back surgery.  Prayers for Tank’s wife, Junk’s wife, and Thunderstruck’s mother.

No Denial

THE SCENE: Sunny and hot, 95 degrees
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:
20 Side Straddle Hops, 10 Burpees, Plank Lifts, 10 Rockettes, 10 Cherry Pickers, 10 Baby Arm Circles Forward and 10 Backward
THA-THANG:
Mosey to parking lot that is across the street from Northern Ball field Entrance Parking Lot.  We will be going to the four corners of each parking lot by the following methods and doing the following exercises

  • Corner 1:  20 Squat Jumps (Round 1), 20 Star Jumps (Round 2) then Bernie Sanders to Corner 2
  • Corner 2:  20 American Hammers four count (Round 1), 20 Bicycle Kicks four count (Round 2) then bear crawl to Corner 3
  • Corner 3:  20 Plank Jacks (Round 1), 20 Iron Mikes four count (Round 2) then sprint to Corner 4.
  • Corner 4:  20 Merkins (Round 1), 20 Carolina Dry Docks (Round 2) then lunge to Corner 1

Mosey to Serpentine Sidewalk.  We will do nickel, dime, quarters to the bottom of Cardiac Hill (run one light and do five of exercise, run two lights and do ten of exercise, run five lights and do 25 of exercise) with the following exercises:

  • Big Boy Sit Ups
  • Diamond Merkins
  • Imperial Walkers

At Cardiac Hill:  We will run up the hill, stopping to do the following exercises at the following locations:

  • Turn 1:  20 Hello Dollies (four count)
  • Turn 2:  20 Flutter Kicks (four count)
  • Turn 3:  20 Decline Merkins
  • Benches:  20 Bench Dips

Mosey on perimeter trail then go south at road that heads towards Admin Bldg.  Stop by stop sign at northeast corner of Admin Bldg.  We will do 20 Behind Back Scissor Kicks

Mosey to AO.

MARY:

Rocky Balboas

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
Eight men, no FNG’s.
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:

Take The Time to Process Pain

As a psychologist, I see many people refuse to examine painful events in their lives.  Something painful has occurred in their lives that created trauma for them.  They try to AVOID thinking of the situation at all costs.  For example, the person may have lost a loved one and they try not to think of the death of that loved one or even the life of the loved one because it leads to sorrow and tears.  A person may avoid thinking of a past dangerous situation (e.g, surviving an automobile or plane accident) because it brings up fear, worry, or pain in terms of seeing someone injured or killed).  A person may avoid thinking of past abuse because to think of it is so painful and they rather put the abuse off in a closet.  For a little while, the strategy may work.  But for most of us, the painfulness of the past event seeps through the cracks and continues to impact us.  We want to hide from the pain but the pain comes back to haunt us in nightmares, flashbacks, nervousness, jumpiness, and general unrest.  This is why a major strategy of working with someone who has suffered from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is to get the person to share their past traumatic experience.  The person may feel worse at first but by continuing to talk about the event, by continuing to process it (in psychology we call this working through), the person finally gains some control over the pain.  They realize that life can hand us some terrible stuff but that the terrible stuff we experienced is over and it probably won’t occur again, especially if we take steps to make sure it doesn’t happen.  The abused child is no longer a child, the auto accident victim realizes he can drive his car with a pretty high degree of safety, the war veteran is no longer at war.

Life is not a fully rosy picture.  Bad things happen.  Some people want to look at the world through rose colored glasses.  They may not see the pain going on around them until it hits them straight in the face.  But life also has much to offer and be awed by, much beauty, despite the ugliness.  If we see and process both, we are generally going to be better off for it.  And, we are in a better position to help our fellow human beings.  We can laugh with them but can also cry with them, join them when they are hurting, and give them a loving hand to reach out to.

Peter Gabriel wrote a beautiful song (called “Red Rain”) that deals with the issue of pain.  At the start of this largely metaphysical and symbolic song, the protagonist can’t see or hear the pain that others experience and denies the pain.  It is later, when he lets his defenses down, that the “Red Rain” surrounds him.  Putting his trust in something higher than himself, he can no longer deny the pain around him.  And through this, as if in an epiphany, he is bathed by the rain as if in a pool or red wine, as if in a red sea.

Red rain is coming down
Red rain
Red rain is pouring down
Pouring down all over me
 
I am standing up at the water's edge in my dream
I cannot make a single sound as you scream
It can't be that cold, the ground is still warm to touch
We touch, this place is so quiet, sensing that storm
 
Red rain is coming down
Red rain
Red rain is pouring down
Pouring down all over me
 
Well I've seen them buried in a sheltered place in this town
They tell you that this rain can sting, and look down
There is no blood around, see no sign of pain
Hay ay ay no pain
Seeing no red at all, see no rain
 
Red rain is coming down
Red rain
Red rain is pouring down
Pouring down all over me
 
Red rain
Ohhhh
Putting the pressure on much harder now
To return again and again
Just let the red rain splash you
Let the rain fall on your skin
I come to you defenses down
With the trust of a child
 
Red rain is coming down
Red rain
Red rain is pouring down
Pouring down all over me

And I can't watch any more
No more denial
It's so hard to lay down in all of this

Red rain coming down
Red rain
Red rain is pouring down
I'm bathing in
Red rain coming down
Red rain is falling down
Red rain is coming down all over me
I'm begging you

Red rain coming down
Red rain coming down
Red rain coming down
Red rain coming down

Over me in the red red sea
Over me
Over me
Red rain

MOLESKIN:
Prayers for Junk’s mother, for Crawdad’s wife, for Thunderstruck’s mother and for High-Heel’s mother.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
3rd F upcoming on August 10.

Amazon Abort co-Q

THE SCENE: Forgot to look, felt like about 75* and humidity wasn’t yet too bad
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:
Led by Amazon:
BAC forward x20 IC (evidently at Brickyard these are know as manly arm rotations)
BAC backwards x20 IC
Moroccan night clubs x20 IC
OH claps x20 IC
Led by Abort:
Pulse squats x15 IC
Tempo lunge x10 IC
Cobras x10 IC
Amazon:
Sumo squat x10 IC
THA-THANG:
Mosey across Emory Road to the First Tennessee bank parking lot and pair up.  Dora style work, one partner does Galway Hookers across parking lot (4 lunge steps, 1 supersquat, 4 lunge steps, 2 supersquats, continue) to cone and the run back.  The other partner works through:

  • Burps x100
  • Calf raises x100 (on 4-ct)
  • 200 high knees (left/right 1)

Once the partner returns, swap and continue through the exercises.  All groups ended about the same time, so a quick mosey through the parking lots, and back across Emory Road right in front of splash pad.  Quick round of ATM’s to even out the leg work we just did, then continue mosey to pick up a pet rock at the lot just beyond the park.  Grab your rock and mosey with it across Emory to the Health and Wellness parking lot (fitting right?).

Four corners routine, sort of.  Each exercise set with rocks, then run carrying rock overhead to the next corner.

  • Front rock raises x20
  • Eight count bodybuilders x10
  • Rock OH squats x20
  • Brickyard manmakers x10

Finish the four corners, then rinse and repeat for a second round.  After a quick joke about a third round, its time for the shoulder shredder.  Overhead claps on a 4 count, stopping every quarter to pick some cherries.  TAKE US TO 100!

Get rock overhead and mosey back across Emory Road for the last time and take the rock back and return it.  Mosey back toward start point for a little cardio.

Sprints are around 30 yards, all done together.

  • 80% sprint, immediately followed by 10 merkins on 4-ct IC
  • 80% sprint, immediately followed by 10 cobras on 4-ct IC
  • 100% sprint, AYG, immediately followed by 20 SSH IC

MARY:
Flutter kicks x20 IC
BBSUs x20 OYO
Flutter kicks x20 IC
BBSUs x20 OYO
Boat/canoe cash out – in canoe doing flutters, Moroccan night clubs, OH claps
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
9 strong with plenty of visitors: Herbie, Biohazard, Fob, Manilow, Pele, Lilydipper, Fast N Easy, Amazon, Abort
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
Amazon spoke about the importance of focusing on others who might be struggling.  Lessons he has learned in GORUCK events, specifically his most recent HTL.  During those events, and in life in general, we find ourselves struggling and contemplating giving up.  But if you look around, there is generally someone worse off than we are.  If you focus your energy on them and helping them keep moving, its funny how you forget the pain you’re in or how tired you are.  Focus on helping someone else, and you’ll be amazed how far that takes you as well.  AYE!!

Give In To God

THE SCENE:  Sunny and humid, temps in 80’s.
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:
20 Side-straddle hops, 10 Iron Mikes (four count), 10 Windmills, 10 Twists, 10 Cherry Pickers
THA-THANG:
Mosey to stop sign at southeast corner of the Admin Bldg.  20 Hello Dollies.

Mosey to parking lot near Area 54.  20 American Hammers.

Mosey to Cones that will be in grass on others side of the street from parking lot near Area 54.  The cones will be set up in four corners.  We will be going to each cone by the following methods and doing the following exercises:

  • Cone 1:  20 Merkins.  Bernie Sanders to Cone 2.
  • Cone 2:  20 Big Boy Sit Ups.  Grapevine, right foot in lead, to Cone 3
  • Cone 3:  20 Carolina Dry Docks.  Sprint to Cone 4.
  • Cone 4.  40 Baby Crunches.  Grapevine, left foot in lead, to Cone 1.+
  • Rinse and repeat two more times.

Mosey to shaded area on perimeter trail that is near the North Shore Gate Entrance to park.  20 Buzz Saws.

Mosey down perimeter trail to bottom of Mt. Everest.  20 Hello Dollies. 20 Merkins.  20 Big Boy Sit Ups.

Run up Mt. Everest to street in front of Admin Bldg.

We will run in a counter-clockwise square doing the following exercises at the following locations:

At Bat House:  Do 20 Star Jumps then run down steps.

At grassy area at bottom of steps:  20 Carolina Dry Docks then run to tree grove below summit of Mt. Everest.

At tree grove:  10 Burpees then run to top of Mt. Everest.

At top of Mt. Everest:  20 Big Boy Situps

Mosey to wall on other side of street from Admin Bldg parking lot.  We will pair up into two man teams.  While one partner does 20 dips at wall the other partner does merkins.  Then partners trade places.  Rinse and repeat.

Mosey to AO.

MARY:
20 Buzz Saws, 20 Pickle Pounders, 15 Shoulder Taps, 20 Merkins
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
Eleven men, one FNG, Robert Land whom we dubbed “Hot Lips.”
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
Give In To God

“Never give up.”  “When the going get’s tough, the tough get going.”  ” Go the extra mile.”  “Give 110%.” “When you think you have had enough, find that extra in reserve.”

These are phrases we can relate to in F3.  We are a group of men who encourage each other to push ourselves to our limits so that we can better ourselves in health and as members of society.  These are good phrases and they ring with truth.  To succeed in life we must push ourselves, even when the chips are down. To be true HIM’s we must also sometimes carry others with us along the way.

But as HIM’s who live in a world that has tainted views of what true success is, we must also think on these phrases with discernment.  We must realize that their are exceptions to every rule.  We must learn that it is important to have balance in our lives.  We must see that even Jesus took time to rest and pray.  And, in F3, we must remember that one of our often used phrases is, “Modify!”

As a psychologist, I see people who definitely need to listen to the “don’t give up” types of statements.  I see people quitting jobs just because they had a bad day at work, because a co-worker or boss said something negative to them, because they don’t like getting up on dark and cold mornings.”  This type of attitude leads to defeat, to failure, to depression.

But I have also seen people who are anxious, depressed and miserable because they think they have to hold everything together or else they are failures.  These people are not the “I give up types.”  But they are burning the candle at both ends, failing to “sharpen the saw”, and failing to turn to God and trust in Him at their greatest time of need.  I was watching a television show on Netflix with my wife on Saturday night.  Part of the show focused on an attorney who had been very successful at her job.  She also wanted to be a good mother.  She and her stay-at-home husband were doing the best they could to raise their young daughter and they had also recently adopted a nine-year-old boy who came from a very difficult background and had some behavioral issues because of it.  The attorney was trying to meet the needs of her family and the needs of the job.  She was getting further and further behind because of the many demands facing her.  She had her daughter getting angry at her for missing one of her school musicals (due to job necessities) and she had her employer and clients getting upset at her for making mistakes on the job that she had not made in the past.  She was reaching the breaking point.  In one scene, she has a panic attack in front of her husband, almost fainting, something that had never happened to her before.  Finally, in a critical scene of the show, leaders of the law firm let her know that she has been on track to become a partner in this highly successful firm.  Noting her recent mistakes, they ask her if she is willing to give 100% to the law firm.  She makes an important decision, one that the society she runs with would see as a mistake, as a sign of failure.  She decides to quit the firm.

I bring this up because there will be times in each of our lives when we must choose to give things up.  A great way to recognize this is when we see that we are taking on too much, when our life feels out of balance.  We are not failing when we make the decision to give up in such a case.  We are, rather, choosing something greater.  In the case of the female attorney in the show I mentioned, she chose to spend more time with family.  She could take on a job with less pay so that she could have a better relationship with her daughter and adopted son.

What can we do when we experience ourselves off kilter?  We can pray to God.  Too many times we try to handle things on our own without asking God for direction.  We can also talk to our friends.  God often speaks to us through friends.  In our prayers we may hear that we need to hang in their for a while, that things will slow down, that life will get back to balance.  But we may also hear that it is time to give something up.  We may also see that we have been trying to manage things without God without giving in to Him, allowing him to guide us, freeing ourselves up to give Him control.

MOLESKIN:
Insert any personal comments, notes, devotion content, etc.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Insert information about upcoming events, 2nd or 3rd F opportunities, and any other announcements.

Beyond Words

THE SCENE: Cloudy and very humid
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:
20 Side Straddle Hops.  10 Burpees.  10 Tempo Squats.  10 Windmills.  5 baby arm circles forward and backwards.  5 wide arm circles forward and backwards.
THA-THANG:

Mosey to stop sign at southeast corner of Admin Bldg.  20 American Hammers (four count).

Mosey toward Northshore gate of the park.  Stop at shade tree near Area 51.  20 Hello Dollies (four count).

Mosey to the perimeter trail that crosses road near the Northshore Gate.  We will do Nickel, Dime, Quarters (running one light and stopping for five of an exercise, running two lights and stopping for ten of the exercise, and running five lights to stop and do 25 of the exercise) heading south on the perimeter trail and staying on the perimeter trail until it reaches the Southeastern Ball Park.  We will do the following exercises during our stops:

  • Merkins
  • Squat Jumps
  • Big Boy Sit-ups
  • Star Jumps
  • Dive Bombers

Mosey to the Pavilion by Southern Ball Fields. We will do Elevens at the picnic tables starting with one decline merkin and ten bench dips.

Mosey to the Outdoor Chapel

We will pair up into teams of two men each.  While one man on time runs around the chapel on the sidewalk the other man does bench dips.  Partners switch off after one circles the chapel.

Mosey on roadway back toward the Admin Bldg.  We will stop 1/3 of way their to do 20 Flutter Kicks (four count) and 2/3 of the way there to do 20 Bicycle Kicks.

Mosey to AO.

MARY:

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
Eight men, no FNGs.
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
BEYOND WORDS

Last Friday, I was reading a book when my wife, Jan, happened across the movie Steel Magnolias on television.  I had seen the movie back in 1989 when it came out.  I kept reading my book but as the movie went on I gradually cast the book aside and focused on the screen.  OK, my wife and kids make fun of me for crying at movies and I cried at this one.  The movie centers around a group of women who are friends played by famous actresses and a famous songwriter, Sally Fields, Dolly Parton, Shirley MacLaine, and Olympia Dukakis.  It also focuses on two younger women played by young actresses who would later become famous:  Daryl Hannah and Julia Roberts.  All of these women are bonded to one another and their bond becomes stronger over time.  They keep that bond, despite the quirkiness of each individual.  They also keep the bond despite the fact that they sometimes say idiotic, off-base or even hurtful things to each other.  But what they say counts, is relevant, and helps each of them to grow – they are not therapists, they are friends and the power of their love for one another GOES BEYOND WORDS.

In the movie, Sally Fields plays the mother of Shelby who is played by Julia Roberts.  Shelby dies of medical issues.  The friends are together at the cemetery after the funeral.  Daryl Hannah’s character is a simple young woman and a quirky religious fanatic.  She at first sounds trite when she says to Sally Fields, “we should all be rejoicing because Shelby is with our king.”  Fields gets pissed off at this saying “excuse me if I am selfish and don’t feel like rejoicing.”  But it is the simplicity and earnestness of Daryl Hannah’s character who, thereafter, touches Field’s heart.  Hannah talks about how Shelby had to fight to stay alive and about how her “body just couldn’t keep fighting any more.”  She apologizes for her simplicity but talks about how she views heaven as a better place with Shelby there.

In another scene in the cemetery, Fields is breaking apart with her friends, hurting, angry, questioning the unfairness of her daughter’s death, and screaming that she just wants to hit somebody.  The Olympia Dukakis character pushes her friend, a sort of curmudgeon character played by Shirley MacLaine, in front of her and says, “Here, hit this.  It will make you feel better.  Go ahead and sock her one in the face.”  MacLaine stomps off pissed while the remaining women, including Fields, break down laughing.

You then see the apology scene between Dukakis and MacClaine, a touching scene where Dukakis explains she was just trying to break the tension of the moment.  She playfully nudges MacClaine and MacClaine nudges back.  The two end up bumping each other off the park bench.  It is the simple, joking act of pushing each other back and forth that shows the love between them.

I bring all this up to say that as F3 brothers, as friends to one another, we do not have to always say the right thing.  If you care for your brother that care is gonna show through, no matter what kind of stupid thing you say to him.  It may be a silly joke, it may be a bopping of hands, it may be you placing your hand on your brother’s back during prayer time in the Circle of Trust.  Our connection between one another GOES BEYOND WORDS.  It is the being there that counts.

MOLESKIN:
Prayers for Tank and for two people who were killed by drivers under the influence of substances this past weekend.