F3 Knoxville

Giving Back

THE SCENE: Sunny, temp in high 80s.
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:

20 Side Straddle Hops, 10 Burpees, 8 Cherry Pickers, 8 Twisties, 7 Little Baby Arm Circles Forward and Backward, 5 Paradactyls Forward and Backward, Stretches
THA-THANG:
Mosey to the stop sign at the Southeastern Corner of the Admin Bldg.  We will do 20 Flutter Kicks.

Mosey to the parking lot that is to the east side of the Utilities Bldg.  We will stop to do 20 Hello Dollies.  We will then Bear Crawl across half the parking lot and Lunge across the other half.

Mosey to the shaded area the the southwestern corner of the Utilities Bldg.  We will do 10 Tempo Squats.

Next, we will go along the perimeter trail as it heads south and then east toward the water area where there are benches overlooking the water.  We will run for six lights and walk for two lights until we get to our destination.  Then, each man will grab a boulder from the boulder pile near the water’s edge.  We will do the following exercises with the boulders:

  • 25 Shoulder Presses
  • 25 Curls
  • 25 Rows
  • 25 Squats

After putting the boulders back we will go west and south along the perimeter trail until we reach the pavilion that is close to the Lily Pad.  We will get there by running for six lights and walking for two lights until we reach our destination.

Mosey to the Outdoor Chapel.  We will do 20 Baby Crunches then run on the sidewalk as it circles the chapel.  We will rinse and repeat twice.

Mosey up the grass that is south of Pickett’s Charge.  We will be running up to the stairs that goes up from the small parking lot left of the coliseum.  There will be three hills to climb.  We will stop to do two burpees af the top of each hill.

Mosey to the end of the gravel parking lot for the Admin Bldg.  We will sprint about 50 yards north on the roadway.  We will take a brief rest and sprint back to the parking lot.  Then, we will sprint back to the AO flag.

MARY:
20 Flutter Kicks and 20 Bicycle Kicks
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
16 men, no FNGs.
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
During my first number of years working as a psychologist at Cherokee Health Systems (where I still work), I spent about 6 hours per week consulting on the Oncology/Hematology Unit at East Tennessee Children’s Hospital (ETCH).  I saw many many kids with cancer.  I loved the staff members, including doctors Ray Pais and Shahid Malik, on the unit because they were mighty special people. The staff had such a heart for the patients and the families of the patients who came there.  I also loved the kids on the unit.  Some had bald heads due to chemotherapy, some may have had trouble walking, some were sickly, some may not have had much longer to live.  But they still loved to play, they still loved to laugh, they still were affectionate, and they still had a zest for life. You might think that a cancer ward would be a sad place to work.  Certainly, there was sadness.  But I found it to be a joyful place to work.  Love abounded there.

My wife, Jan, a psychologist who works on all floors at ETCH, recently sent me an inspiring story about a former patient on the Oncology/Hematology Unit.  Hannah Lawson was diagnosed with a cancerous stage three brain tumor at the age of 7.  Her dog, Frenchy, was the first to notice something wrong with her.  Frenchy pawed at her pillow, knowing Hannah just wasn’t right. Her parents came in and found her disoriented and non-responsive.  Two days later, on Valentines Day in 2007, surgeons removed the brain tumor.

The journey was not over for Hannah.  She had to go through radiation treatment at the Thompson Cancer Survival Center.  During her months of treatment, she would sometimes get letters from U.S Soldiers overseas.  U.S. Soldiers often write to kids who have cancer and some become pen pals with kids. Hannah’s pen pal was a soldier named David Creech.  Hannah admired what these soldiers like David Creech did.  During her treatment and recovery, Hannah began to think of how she, also, might help others.  She created Hannah’s Army Angels which raised money for the pediatric Brain Tumor Foundation.  Hannah’s Army Angels also collected supplies to send to soldiers overseas.  Because of what she had accomplished through her Hannah’s Army Angels, the Tennessee legislature recognized her bravery and compassion with a proclamation and special metal coin on the senate floor in Nashville.

After graduation from high school, Hannah went on to study nursing at East Tennessee State University (ETSU).  Now age 22, she still has some remnants of the cancer and brain tumor, including left-sided weakness and permanent baldness on the right side of her head.  Guess where she is now working?  At ETCH on the same ward where she received treatment all those years ago.  Pediatric oncology was always her passion in college. And, her prior treatment is one of her greatest connections to the young patients she is caring for ETCH.

Two other things to mention in this happy story.  Hannah is getting married in October.  And, her dog Frenchy, who found her that day back in 2007 and helped to save her life – she is still alive and will walk down the aisle as the flower dog on Hannah’s wedding day.

God, thank you for warriors like Hannah Lawson.  May they be an inspiration to us and reminder how, we too, can give back to our communities.

MOLESKIN:
Prayers for Crispr’s friend, Chris, whose mother recently had a massive aneurysm in her brain.  She is currently at the hospital.  Prayers for Mr. Jinxy’s father who has a heart condition that is worsening.  His father was recently released from the hospital.  Prayers of praise that the brain tumor of Swimmies’ sister was found to be benign.  Prayers for Lillydipper who has total shoulder replacement surgery this Thursday.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Mt. Everest public run on September 10 at 10 am.  F3 family picnic on September 11 from 4 pm to 8 pm at Victor Ashe Park.

Cards Around Asylum

THE SCENE: Hot (89F), sunny afternoon, a few clouds in the sky, slight breeze.

F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:

Side-straddle Hop (20 4 ct), 8 4 ct. windmills (slow, stretch), 10 4 ct. baby arm circles (forward & backwards each), Michael Phelps, & Merkins (10 4 ct.).

THA-THANG:

After a mosey down to the greenway, the group made their way around the park by drawing cards. Number cards indicated how many lights to run and and how many of the exercise we would do when we arrived at the light. If the card drawn is a face card, the PAX would immediately do 10 of an exercise as follows: King – Merkins, Queen – Squats, Jack – Big Boys. If the card drawn was a one eyed Jack or the Queen of Spades then everyone did 10 Burpees. Otherwise, the suit dictated what kind of exercise we would do as follows:

  • Spades – arm exercise
  • Hearts – leg exercise
  • Diamonds – Core exercise
  • Clubs – Cardio exercise

The card drawer chooses the specific exercise to do once we reached the designated light.

MARY:
Arrived to the AO with no time remaining.

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
Welcome to Pop-a-Top (Jeremy) who showed up looking for an evening workout!

CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
You don’t rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. F3 is continues because it is a great system. Let’s all (definitely including me in this) invest to make the system work well.

ANNOUNCEMENTS:
New AO starts in Seymour this Saturday.

Pyramid Workout

THE SCENE: Rainy 65 degrees


F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER DONE
WARM-O-RAMA:

Side straddle hop

Merkins in cadence

Imperial walker in cadence

Twisties in cadence

Baby Arm circle

Reverse

Overhead clap

Cherry picker

Stretching calves


THA-THANG:

Pyramid All Body Workout

1st Arm Galore exercises

Merkins 10X

Carolina Dry docks 20 X

Dips 30 X

Irkins 40X

Derkins 50X

Mosey 1 lap around cones then back down to Irkins, Dips, Dry Docks and Merkins then Rinse and repeat

2nd Leg workout

Jump squats 10X

Squats 20X

Lunge single leg 30X (15 each leg)

Bobby Hurleys 40 X

Lunge and 1 leg at the back of the bench 50X (25 each leg)

Mosey 1 lap around cones then back Rinse and repeat

3rd Ab workout

Bigboy Sit ups 10X

LBC 20 X

Hello Dolly 30 X

Flutter Kicks 40 X double count

Reverse Pickle pounder 50X

Mosey 1 lap around cones then back Rinse and repeat

Mosey to the Lillie pad parking to the baseline 1st workout

Each light pole stop for 10 Squats

Mosey to 1st pole and Bernie Sanders to the 2nd and Mosey to 3rd and mosey back to the baseline

2 nd

Same sequence but each light pole Raise the Roof 10X.

Walk half and Sprint back to the AO

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
A 9 HIMs getting better
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:


Word of the day: 3 important things about Life

1 Life is Hard-work

2nd You need to have Faith

3rd Grace. Wait for God’s Grace.

Thank you for F3 for making us a better Men.

Cones + A Ball

F3 Q: 5/17/22

AO: Asylum PM

5:45-6:30

[ The Scene ]

[ Welcome/Disclaimer ]

  • Welcome to F3: Fitness – Fellowship – Faith
  • My name is Steam and I’ll be your Q this morning
  • A few things before we begin:
    • I’m not a professional
    • You’re here on your own belief
    • You know your injuries if you have any so if you need to modify anything we do today feel free to do so, but push yourselves and the men around you. They deserve it and so do you.
  • FNGs?

[ Warm o Rama ]

  • SSH: 20×4
    • Run down the stairs and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up
  • Imperial Walker: 10×4
    • Run down the stairs and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up
  • Rockette: 10×4
    • Run down the stairs and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up
  • Cherry Picker: 10×4
    • Run down the stairs and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up
  • Motivator: 5
    • Run down and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up

[ The Thang ]

(Mosey down to the grass ramp)

  • 3 cones
  • C1: 1 man maker
  • Bear crawl to C2
  • C2: 2 man makers
  • Bear crawl to C3
  • C3: 3 man makers
  • Bernie sanders back to C1 and rinse and repeat 1x

(Mosey to the grass field below)

  • 6 cones
  • Corners are all squats (4)
  • 2 middle ones are Bobby Hurley’s
  • All cones = 20 reps
  • When you’re done with your reps at a cone, come to the middle and do 20 SSHs before reporting to your next cone
  • Clockwise
  • When you get make it around 1 full time, come to the middle and do LBCs

(Mosey to the Bowl)

  • 9 cones on the top of the bowl
  • Start at the grate: 50 SSH
  • Run counter clockwise to each cone and execute 1 Merkin, then back to the grate
  • Rinse and repeat, adding a Merkin each time

[ Mary ]

[ COT ]

  • # off
  • Name o Rama
  • FNGs
  • BOM

The Friction of Our Fathers

There was a talk I heard on a men’s retreat in early April that really struck a chord with me. It’s a subject that some of us run from, and others of us don’t, depending on your experience and journey with your own father. Here’s the breakdown of the talk, and then some of my own notes and study and takeaways as I have been processing this over the past month. 

  • “You know my dad used to be like this, and now he’s not. My dad used to be loud, and now he’s soft. That is possible men.”

Main Points

  1. We find ourselves in 1 of 2 places with “the friction of our fathers”
    • Still chasing their approval. Still chasing hope that they might see us as worthy. Still chasing value.
    • Maybe potentially proving them wrong.
    • OR — shadow side: “I will be like him.” And “You’re not going to be your dad. You can’t chase him.”

(Which one of these three places do you find yourself?)

  • “All I’d ever wanted is my dad to pursue me. Pursue me, I’m your son, come towards me, right?”

Are you trying to live up to the name or live up to the hype?

  • Your compass is pointed in the wrong place

    2. You have a Heavenly Father that is well pleased with you

    • Luke 3:22 — You are my son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.
    • Are you trying to live up to the name or live up to the hype?
    • Your compass is pointed in the wrong place

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  • Father is mentioned in the Bible (ESV) 1,024 times over 857 verses. That’s over 2 years of studying how God is a Father in the Bible and in our lives
    • All the way from Genesis 2:24 to Revelation 3:21
    • Genesis: 139x
  • 2 Corinthians 6:18 — And I will be a father to you, and you will be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.

[ Closing the “Frictions” ]

These friction points are guideposts more landmarks, not things to be fearful of.

Philippians 3:17 — Join in imitating me, brothers and sisters, and pay careful attention to those who live according to the example you have in us.

Paul mentions “pay attention to those” or take note of those who live according to the example you have in us. Who are some men that you have taken note of in your life? Men that you pay attention to and where they step, you want to step?

— “Do this”

— Do these kinds of things

— Find some other people who are just a bit ahead of you who can set a road cone ahead of you and help be your guide

In John Eldridge’s book “Fathered By God”

  • John is telling a story and ends with this: “As I drove home I knew the gift had been from God, that he had fathered me through this man.
  • We must be willing to take an enormous risk, and open our hearts to the possibility that God is initiating us as men — maybe even in the very things in which we thought he’d abandoned us. We open ourselves up to being fathered.
  • You are the son of a kind, strong, and engaged father, a father wise enough to guide you in the way, generous enough to provide for your journey, offering to walk with you every step.

Ending: You are being so intentionally fathered by a God that has pursued you before you even arrived on the scene men. Regardless of your experience with your earthly father, let’s rest in that there is a “good good father” who loves you more than you can even fathom, and it’s because “it’s who you are. It’s who you are.” You’re loved by him. You’re loved by him.

No Flame Blower Outers Here

THE SCENE: ‘Bout 88 and breezy
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER done
WARM-O-RAMA:

SSH, rockettes, this and that, runners stretch, and cherry pickers
THA-THANG:
Insert information about the workout.

  • Take all CMUs down 2 flights of stairs, 20 8 ct Spiders, CMU curls until the 6.
  • Bring CMUs up one flight, Run to road; 50 V Sit OH Claps, Run to trees; 50 kneel ups, Return to center, CMU curls until the 6.
  • Bring CMUs to the top and take them to the Bowl
  • Battle Buddy: one runs around the bench; the other Rows, OH Press, squats
  • Change Battle Buddy: one walks the CMU, the other does 20 Squats, run, catch, switch, repeat
  • In the Pit, 360 Merkins (L and R) return CMUs to Flag

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
12 Fake Gloomers
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:

Adapted from Brene Brown’s “Atlas of the Heart” Chapter 2.

Schadenfreude is a compound of the German words “schaden” meaning harm and “freude” meaning joy.  Schadenfreude simply means, “pleasure or joy derived from someone else’s suffering or misfortune”.  And the world is full of it these days.

Schadenfreude is an emotion typically born out of inferiority rather than superiority.  It is also born out of fear, powerlessness, and a sense of deservedness.  Schadenfreude involves counter empathy, where our emotional reaction is incongruent with another person’s emotional experience.

While schadenfreude may be fun to say, it’s a tough emotion.  There’s a cruelty and insecurity about it.  Taking pleasure in someone else’s failings, even if that person is someone we really dislike, can violate our values and lead to feelings of guilt and shame.

When we feel schadenfreude, it shuts down the area of our brain we use when feeling empathy and lights up areas of the brain that make us feel good and entices us to engage in similar behaviors in the future.  Schadenfreude is especially seductive when we are sucked into groupthink.

It’s easy to build counterfeit connection with collective schadenfreude.  When we see someone who we don’t like, disagree with, or is outside of our group stumble, fall, or fail, it’s tempting to celebrate that suffering together and to stir up collective emotion.  That kind of bonding might feel good for a moment, but nothing that celebrates the humiliation or pain of another person builds lasting connection.

We often don’t talk about our schadenfreude because it can make us feel shame or guilt.  This came up a lot during the pandemic when vaccinated people struggled with feelings of schadenfreude towards anti-VAX folks who were diagnosed with COVID.

From the book:  I remember thinking one day, “It this who I want to be?  Someone who celebrates people getting sick or dying?”  I would justify it by saying they were threatening my health and the health of the people I love. In the end I couldn’t make it work with my values.  I mean, I’m still angry, but without a viable accountability strategy, it’s hard not to let schadenfreude take over.

Freuden-freude is the opposite of schadenfreude.  It’s the enjoyment of another’s success.  When others report success to us, they generally hope for an empathic response of shared joy.  Which is freuden-freude.

If instead they get a negative, competitive reaction, they may respond with confusion, disappointment, irritation, or all three.  Ongoing lack of freuden-freude can eventually pose a fatal challenge to a relationship, and in turn, repeated relationship failures often produce depression.  We suspect that depressed folks might exhibit deficiencies in freuden-freude.

Brown concludes with…In teaching our kids how to cultivate meaningful connection with the people in their lives, we’ve always told them that good friends are not afraid of your light and never blow out your flame.  And you don’t blow out their flame.  Even when their flame is really bright and it makes you worry about your own flame.

When something good happens to you, they celebrate your flame.  When something good happens to them, you celebrate their flame.

We always have our kids hold out there hands, palms flat, and say “If this is your flame and the wind picks up, good friends cups their hands around your flame to keep it from going out.  And you do the same for them.”

We have always said, “No flame blower outers” and that’s our way of saying less schadenfreude and more freuden-freude.

What does this mean for the men of F3?

  • Look anywhere in the world right now and you will see people deriving joy from other’s failures or misfortune.
  • Schadenfreude can make you feel good and really get stirred up in groups of like-minded individuals…and we are a group…so we have to watch ourselves.
  • Because it’s an emotion that rewards the brain, we need an accountability strategy to be sure it doesn’t take over. We need to be that accountability for one another.
  • As leaders in our community, we need to ensure we are protecting and celebrating everyone’s flame. Remember, “no flame blower outers here”.
  • And if we are being good leaders, we will take joy in seeing other’s flames shine even brighter.

ANNOUNCEMENTS:
We have Goober in our thoughts and prayers.