F3 Knoxville

Tag: Pusher

Asylum PM 06/09/22

THE SCENE: A beautiful sunny day, 80 degrees
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:

15 side straddle hops in cadence

5 cherry pickers

10 baby arm circles each way

Little of this and that

10 rockettes

5 burpees

THA-THANG:

Mosey to street side of multipurpose field (battle buddy up)

Sorta Doras

One buddy does exercise while other travels to other end and back, each buddy does each exercise and swaps off

  1. Stay and do merkins, runner does right facing karaokes, 10 iron Mikes and runs back
  2. Stay and do skater leg sweeps, runner does bernie down, 10 iron Mikes at end and runs back
  3. Stay and do exercise like Peter Parkers but touch hand to foot each side, runner does left facing karaoke, 10 iron Mikes and run back.

 

All bear crawl to bottom of Pickett’s Charge

7s #1

Bottom 6 big boys

Top 1 prisoner getup

Go thru cycle to opposite numbers

 

All move together to 2nd tier

11s #2

Bottom 10 Major Merkins

Top 1 Bobby Hurleys

 

Mosey to the 3rd tier and everyone grab a rock

Pyramid – work up and then all the way up and down

10 storks– switch leg each time

20 shoulder press

30 curls

Mosey to bottom of Park office building stairs in the shade. On our 6 and knocked out 15 dead bugs and 20 flutter kicks all together.

Mosey back to AO and did some light stretching before time.

MARY:
Some stretches
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA

CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:

Facing Fears:

We all have them, and have had many the past few years whether it be a illness, violence, , professional concerns, crime or financial hardships. We are all here now and most likely gotten through similar or worse situations in our past, use those to have confidence we can face whatever the future holds.

“If you have fears, stop to realize that others have them too. Probably a fear is haunting you at this moment: the fear of what someone is going to say about you; what the boss is going to do; what the neighbors going to think. These all have to do with the future. You never fear the past, for you know what has happened and generally it wasn’t so bad after all. But the future! Fortunately there is a simple way of fighting fear. Analyze your fear and you will not be so terrified by it. You will say to yourself, Why, I can actually stand that’”

Dale Carnegie

MOLESKIN:
No prayer requests, did a general prayer. Beautiful day, better beatdown
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Convergence on 7/2 and upcoming Brolympics in August

Respond

THE SCENE: Blue skies, temp in low 80s.

F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:
Motivators, starting with seven.  10 twisties.  10 Cherry Pickers.  10 Windmills.  Michael Phelps and a Little of This and That.

THA-THANG:

Mosey to the southeastern corner of the Admin Bldg.  We will stop to do 20 Dead Bugs (4 count) and 20 Flutter Kicks (4 count).

Mosey to the parking lot that is east of the Utility Bldg.  We will do Doras.  While one partner runs to the other end of the parking lot and does 10 Merkins, the other partner works on the exercises.  Partners then switch.  Here are the exercise the partners do as a team:

  • 100 Iron Mikes (both legs = 1)
  • 100 Box Cutters
  • 100 Big Boy Sit-ups
  • 100 Bicycle Kicks (four count)

Mosey to the perimeter trail by the gate at Northshore and head north on the trail to the shady area past the Utility Bldg.  We will stop to do 20 Jump Squats and 40 Baby Crunches.

Next we will run north and then west on the perimeter trail.  We will run for 4 lights and lunge for one light, continuing that process until we reach the area where the trail splits.  We will stop there to do 20 Hello Dollies.

Next, we will run up Roadshow Run.  Men should do 10 calve raises at each set of steps and do 5 Burpees after each set of steps.  Those getting to the Bat Cave first should do Baby Crunches until the six arrives.

Slow Mosey and then Bernie to big tree that is northwest of Admin Bldg.  Then, sprint to parking lot.  Then slow mosey back to AO.

MARY:
10 Squats, 20 Leg Raises.
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
15 men with an FNG whom we dubbed “Woodstop.”  His hospital name is Mac Whipple and he is the son of Rooney.

CIRCLE OF TRUTH:

RESPOND

In F3 we talk about having each other’s back. We talk about connecting with our brothers in time of need.  To me, that is one of the beautiful things about F3.  I consider you guys my brothers and I know that if I am down, I could call on you and you would respond. I hope each of you know that you can call on us if you are in trouble and we will try to figure out a way to help.  I want to say something about this, however, as I don’t want anyone to have false expectations about what your brothers can give.

As a therapist, I have seen clients of mine make the mistake of making faulty presumptions about what good people can give them.  I have seen patients get injured, lose jobs that they were at for years, have life changes that put them in a bad place.  Certainly, after life altering injuries, these folks can use friends.  Some of these patients get mighty depressed . . . in their depression they may get hopeless . . . and, in their hopelessness they may get cynical.  I hear some of them say that they thought they had friends, but after their lives took a spiral downward, they found they had no friends.  They complain of no longer getting phone calls or visits from others.  They start thinking of people as selfish and cold.

While I believe that there are some self-interested and cold people out there, I also believe that those who say they have no friends, those who say people are disinterested, are themselves a major part of the problem.  They themselves are not responding to the people reaching out to them.  I have seen this difficulty occur not only with some patients in my practice but amongst a few brothers in F3.  When I reach out to brothers in a time of crisis or pain, how AM I RESPONDING to them?  That becomes critical if my brothers are going to help me.

First, when in need we should realize that our friends have lives of their own.  They are managing their jobs, their families, and lives that may be just as difficult as our own.  They cannot be there for us 24/7.  Respect that. Set up a time to meet with your friend.  Respect that he or she may be busy and may only have an hour or two for you.  Don’t always expect them to call on you.  They have other people to think about.  Call on them.  I remember living in Dallas and calling on my pastor at a time of great difficulty. He was a very fine man, someone I truly admired.  But, I also realized his time was limited.  We set up some time on a Tuesday night to speak to each other at a place of his convenience.  That hour I spent with him has stuck to my ribs to this very day.  I am so thankful for it.

Second, we need to realize how we are coming across to the people we call on.  Are we listening to what they have to say to us or are we just moving on with our own agenda?  Those we call on need to know that they are being responded to.  Why should they give their time to someone who shuns their advice, their coming to see us, their friendship?  If you’re depressed, you don’t need to be jumping for joy when they speak to you.  But, thank them for their time with us.  And, if you want them to continue to be there for you, listen to what they say.

Finally, show an interest in them.  I ask some of those complaining patients how their “friends” are doing.  They often don’t know.  When in need, it is natural to focus on ourselves, but don’t exclude others by taking no interest in them.  No matter how wounded we are, we can still care for others.  Heck, our pets DEMAND that we show interest in them.  I remember times when I was so sad or mad that I didn’t want to be bothered by anyone or anything.  Along would come Ol Jasper Dog, placing his paw on my knee and demanding to be petted.  I would think, you should be rubbing my head fella.  But, scratching his head or belly for a few minutes, I was usually feeling better.  The act of reaching out itself helps to cure us.

Finally, remember that while your friends have their own lives and cannot be in two places at once, God can be everywhere at once.  Call on your friends but also call on God.  He is Ever Present in our time of need.
MOLESKIN:
Prayers for Pop A Top’s friend whose wife recently passed away; for the future mother-in-law of Steam whose cancer is now in remission but who is having a difficult time with radiation; for Pusher in his travels to the Philippines where he will visit for his father’s 85th birthday; and prayers of praise that Mr. Jinxy’s automobile accident related lawsuit settled.

ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Convergence on July 2 at JUCO.

Tabata and Hills

THE SCENE: mid 70s, partly sunny, humid as heck after the storms
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER

Welcome to F3, Fitness, Fellowship and Faith. F3 is a free workout program designed to improve fitness, share some camaraderie, and foster male leadership in the community.  I’m Pele and I will be your Q today.  I am not a professional, and I do not know your fitness level or injury history.  Please push yourself, but modify the workout as necessary to avoid making any existing injuries worse.  The goal is to get better together!


WARM-O-RAMA:

-30 Split Jacks (4-ct), 15 each leg, in cadence

– 10 Windmills (4-ct), in cadence

– 10 Plank Jacks

– 20 Grady Corns (4-ct), in cadence

  • 10 Steave Earles, (4-ct), in cadence
  • 10 LBCs small and wide (4-ct), forward and backward in cadence

Run to tree down the road, 5 squat jumps, Bernie back

THA-THANG:

TABATA 1 (20 seconds exercise, 10 seconds rest, 4 rounds = 2 minutes per exercise x 5 exercises = 10 minutes per round)

  • Plank Jacks
  • Mountain Climbers
  • Catalina wine mixers
  • Bottle Openers

RUN DOWN STAIRS, OVER TO BASE OF SUMMIT, UP SUMMIT, BACK TO BAT HOUSE.  At EACH “CORNER” DO 15 SMURF JACKS

TABATA 2

  • American Hammers
  • Gas Pumps
  • Wide Flutter Kicks

RUN LOOP, DO 15 BOBBY HURLEYS

TABATA 3

  • High Knees
  • Squats
  • Lunges

RUN LOOP, DO 15 DESONSTRUCTED BURPEES

MARY:
No time for Mary today.
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
13 strong. Pop a top not tagged.
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:

Fellows, it’s been a difficult past couple of weeks for our AO.  We recently, had to part ways with a brother, and that’s just not something we ever want to do.   I have to admit I lost a lot of sleep over it.  And the situation made me consider the fine line between holding someone accountable versus judging someone.  We try to do the former in F3, but stay away from the latter, but sometimes that’s a tough distinction.

The Merriam Webster dictionary defines accountability as an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions, while judgmental is defined as “characterized by a tendency to judge harshly”.  After thinking about it a little more, I came up with sort of my own definition of these terms… accountability is holding someone responsible for norms, traditions, rules, etc. that are broadly accepted by a group, while being judgmental is passing judgment on whether someone measures up to your own PERSONAL ideas or notions.

As I’ve expressed in Slack, I feel it’s VERY important to refrain from publicly passing judgment on our fellow brothers, because when you do so it inevitably causes rifts.  Disagreement is fine, but if you have something you object to, I think it’s always best to have a private discussion about it.

Before parting ways, the former member of our group first passed judgment on our AO in terms of how we uphold the Second F (Fellowship), then passed judgment on an individual in terms of his interpretation of the Bible and his message, and finally, in a parting message to me, passed judgment on me (and, more broadly, our entire group) in challenging our religious beliefs, patriotism, and leadership.

Although I’m not perfect about it, I try to refrain from passing judgment on others.  I have my own belief system, and sure, I appreciate seeing qualities in others that follow a similar system, but I try not to denigrate or think ill of those who have other beliefs.  But let’s face it… we all judge others, and on a pretty regular basis.  It’s part of our DNA, as far I’m concerned.  But there’s a difference in making that determination of judgment internally, and publically attempting to coerce others to conform to your perception of how things should be.  The latter is something that I feel we need to avoid in F3, which was intentionally formed as a very inclusionary group of men.  If you were here a few Saturday’s ago, we had a Guest Q from Chattanooga that emphasized F3s core mission: to plant, grow and serve small workout groups for men for the invigoration of male community leadership.  That’s it.  There are certain components to every F3 workout, and one of those is the Word, followed by the Ball of Man.  I can honestly say that I have personally disagreed with at least a small portion of just about every Word, but also that is OVERHELMED by the amount of wisdom and perspective that I have received.

In closing, I found a couple of statements that I thought really hit the nail on the head when it comes to being Judgmental :

Judgment is the basis for separation, which is the ego’s goal. When we judge a brother or sister, be it in thought or action, we create a sense of separation.

You will save yourself and others years of stress, anger, disappointment and resentment if you allow your brothers and sisters to follow their own hearts. If your brothers and sisters know that they can come to you for advice without criticism and judgment attached to it, you will forever be their sounding board. However, if you end up judging and criticizing their efforts and decisions they will put up walls every time you question or try to advise them.

– James Blanchard Cisneros, Author of You Have Chosen to Remember: A
Journey from Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 91-92

Born in Geneva, Switzerland. He grew up in Caracas, Venezuela and obtained his B.S. and MBA degrees in the United States. James states “My grandfather served in WWII as a colonel in the United States Marines, my father was a Vietnam Army veteran. After the Vietnam experience, my father wanted to break the cycle and protect us from a future draft. So he arranged for my brother and myself to be born in Geneva, Switzerland (a neutral nation), so that we could choose to refrain from the next conflict if that was our choice.”

James 4:11-12

Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?

Romans 16:17 

I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them.

MOLESKIN:
Great to see Sparkler out there, and Pop a Top killed it in his second workout.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Speedway launch Saturday at 6 am, Convergence July 2!

We Choose What We Think

THE SCENE: Insert info about the weather, etc.
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:
25 Side Straddle Hops, 10 Mountain Climbers, 10 Windmills, 5 Baby Arm Circles Forward and 5 Wide Arm Circles Forward, 5 Baby Arm Circles and 5 Wide Arm Circles Backward, 10 Twisties.
THA-THANG:

Mosey to the Pavilion.  We will do a Pyramid of Bench Pull Ups and Decline Merkins, starting with 10 of each, then 15 of each, then 20 of each, then back to 15 of each and finally 10 of each. 

Mosey towards by the pitching cages near the ball fields and down to the start of the Cardiac.  We will do 20 American Hammers.  Next we will run to the second curve of Cardiac.  There will be a cone farther up cardiac as the trail approaches the benches.  We will go on the grass to that cone by alternating between 10 Count Bear Crawls and 10 Count Lunges until we reach the cone.  Then we will do 25 Bench Dips at the benches. 

Mosey on the trail towards Lyons Bend.  We will stop on the trail as it turns towards Lyons Bend and do 20 Flutter Kicks and 20 Hello Dollies in the grass.  We will then run on the trail as it approaches the entrance to the park on Lyons Bend. Before we get there we will see a cone in the grassy field.  We will go to that.  

Men will split into teams of two.  We will do Doras. While one team member runs uphill toward the roadway and touches the tree by the roadway, the other team member will do exercises.  When one partner comes back, the other does the exercises.  Each team will do the following exercises:

  • 100 Merkins
  • 100 Squat Jumps
  • 100 Big Boy Sit-ups
  • 100 Iron Mikes (both feet forward = 1)
  • 100 Raised Legs Toe Touches

Mosey back to trail and then go to the beginning of Roadshow Run.  We will stop to do 25 Dead Bugs (four count) and 50 Baby Crunches.  We will then run up Roadshow Run and stop at the bat cave.  However, we will do 3 Burpees after climbing each set of steps to the bat cave (there are three sets).  Those getting to the bat cave will do Baby Crunches until the six arrives.

Mosey to the front porch of the Admin Bldg.  We will run around the sidewalk loop stopping at each quarter of the loop to do exercises.  Here are the exercises at each quarter:

  • South quarter:  25 Carolina Dry Docks
  • Benches at Coliseum:  25 Bench Dips
  • North Quarter:  25 Bobby Hurleys
  • Steps of Admin Bldg.:  25 Calve Raises
  • Rinse and Repeat.

Mosey to Haslam Boulder.  We will do 20 Squats.

Mosey to AO.

MARY:
We will line up along the curb of one end of the parking lot.  We will Sprint to the other end and sprint back.  We will then Bernie Sanders to the other end and back.  We will then Skip to the other end and back.  We will then Sprint there and back.
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
13 Men, no FNGs.

CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
We Chose What We Think

Since this is the end of May, a time of graduations and commencement addresses, I thought I would examine a commencement address that might teach me some lessons about life.  I had heard of a famous commencement address by the American writer David Foster Wallace that was given to the 2005 graduating class of Kenyon College.  I listened to the speech, found it to be a very good one, and indeed learned some valuable life lessons.  I then found out that David Foster Wallace committed suicide three years after he gave the commencement address.  And, I thought, how much credence can my brothers and I give to life lessons taught by someone who has committed suicide?  I talked to my wife, Jan, about it.  She reminded me of a wonderful phrase by Bryan Stevenson in his book, Just Mercy:  “A man is so much more than the worst thing he has ever done.”  Another thing Jan said to me, and this is also very true: “People often write about what they aspire to be versus what they are”. With those proclamations in mind, here are some of the lessons I learned from David Foster Wallace’s commencement address to Kenyon College:

  1. We have the freedom to think and what we chose to think about is of the utmost importance.  How we interpret data is important.  Two men can hear the same truth, yet have very different interpretations of it.  Wallace, who I do not believe was a fan of any particular denomination of faith, used the example of a religious person and an atheist speaking to one another.  In explaining his disbelief in God, the atheist commented that he put faith to the test one time in a snowstorm and what happened showed there is no God.  It was such a bad snowstorm that he yelled out, “God, if you are truly there, save me from this snowstorm”.  He said God did not come to him.  The religious man replied, “now wait a minute, you lived through the snowstorm, your being here is proof.  Doesn’t that show God exists?”  The atheist said, “I lived but it was because of a man on a snow sled led by a pack of dogs that found me.”  Brothers, we choose how to think.  We chose how to interpret the truths before us.
  2. What we choose to think about, what we choose to focus on applies to the mundane portions of everyday life.  Wallace talked about the long drive home from work.  You can get upset about the traffic jam, the noise, and the pollution.  You can scream at the guy who just cut you off as you were trying to shift your car into a faster moving lane.  You can be annoyed by the massive gas guzzling car in front of you, spitting out fumes and eating up precious fuel resources.  Yet, you can also contemplate what you want to do for your family when you get home.  You can think that maybe the guy who cut in front of you is just as anxious to get home to his family as you are to yours.  You can think about the possibility that the guy in the massive car perhaps wanted to get a larger car to carry his kids around in and keep them safe.  You can even see the roadway as a beautiful picture of fellow humans, making their way home after a hard day at work.  You have the choice.
  3. With our freedom to think we can choose what we worship.  We can worship money and never have enough.  We can worship power and continually drive to have more.  We can worship the intellect and castigate those not as brilliant as we are while somehow wondering if we, with our college educations, are actually frauds.  We chose what we worship.

David Foster Wallace, I don’t know the reasons for your suicide.  Perhaps some of the life lessons you spoke of in your commencement speech were not embedded enough in your psyche.  You aspired for what you wrote about but you were not yet there.  But, this fellow here in Knoxville thanks you for those lessons.  I have the freedom to think and I will choose to try to follow those lessons.  I choose to think about good and purposeful things.  I will try to remember to do so even during the mundane moments of life.  And, I will choose what to worship . . . and what I choose to worship is God, the God of love, the God of mercy, the God of all existence.

MOLESKIN:
Prayers for the families and people impacted by the school shootings in Buffalo, NY and Uvalde, TX.  Prayers for those planting flags at the Veterans and for all Veterans who have served our country.  Prayers for F6 in his search for a new job.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Flag planting this morning at the grave sites of all Veterans buried at the Veterans Cemetary across the street from the Asylum.  Rampart Launch this Monday at 7 am.  Some of us are meeting at the Starbucks at Northshore near Pellisippi Parkway at 6 am on Monday and will Clown Car to the Rampart AO shortly thereafter.

Cones + A Ball

F3 Q: 5/17/22

AO: Asylum PM

5:45-6:30

[ The Scene ]

[ Welcome/Disclaimer ]

  • Welcome to F3: Fitness – Fellowship – Faith
  • My name is Steam and I’ll be your Q this morning
  • A few things before we begin:
    • I’m not a professional
    • You’re here on your own belief
    • You know your injuries if you have any so if you need to modify anything we do today feel free to do so, but push yourselves and the men around you. They deserve it and so do you.
  • FNGs?

[ Warm o Rama ]

  • SSH: 20×4
    • Run down the stairs and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up
  • Imperial Walker: 10×4
    • Run down the stairs and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up
  • Rockette: 10×4
    • Run down the stairs and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up
  • Cherry Picker: 10×4
    • Run down the stairs and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up
  • Motivator: 5
    • Run down and execute 5 merkins
    • Run back up

[ The Thang ]

(Mosey down to the grass ramp)

  • 3 cones
  • C1: 1 man maker
  • Bear crawl to C2
  • C2: 2 man makers
  • Bear crawl to C3
  • C3: 3 man makers
  • Bernie sanders back to C1 and rinse and repeat 1x

(Mosey to the grass field below)

  • 6 cones
  • Corners are all squats (4)
  • 2 middle ones are Bobby Hurley’s
  • All cones = 20 reps
  • When you’re done with your reps at a cone, come to the middle and do 20 SSHs before reporting to your next cone
  • Clockwise
  • When you get make it around 1 full time, come to the middle and do LBCs

(Mosey to the Bowl)

  • 9 cones on the top of the bowl
  • Start at the grate: 50 SSH
  • Run counter clockwise to each cone and execute 1 Merkin, then back to the grate
  • Rinse and repeat, adding a Merkin each time

[ Mary ]

[ COT ]

  • # off
  • Name o Rama
  • FNGs
  • BOM

The Friction of Our Fathers

There was a talk I heard on a men’s retreat in early April that really struck a chord with me. It’s a subject that some of us run from, and others of us don’t, depending on your experience and journey with your own father. Here’s the breakdown of the talk, and then some of my own notes and study and takeaways as I have been processing this over the past month. 

  • “You know my dad used to be like this, and now he’s not. My dad used to be loud, and now he’s soft. That is possible men.”

Main Points

  1. We find ourselves in 1 of 2 places with “the friction of our fathers”
    • Still chasing their approval. Still chasing hope that they might see us as worthy. Still chasing value.
    • Maybe potentially proving them wrong.
    • OR — shadow side: “I will be like him.” And “You’re not going to be your dad. You can’t chase him.”

(Which one of these three places do you find yourself?)

  • “All I’d ever wanted is my dad to pursue me. Pursue me, I’m your son, come towards me, right?”

Are you trying to live up to the name or live up to the hype?

  • Your compass is pointed in the wrong place

    2. You have a Heavenly Father that is well pleased with you

    • Luke 3:22 — You are my son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.
    • Are you trying to live up to the name or live up to the hype?
    • Your compass is pointed in the wrong place

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  • Father is mentioned in the Bible (ESV) 1,024 times over 857 verses. That’s over 2 years of studying how God is a Father in the Bible and in our lives
    • All the way from Genesis 2:24 to Revelation 3:21
    • Genesis: 139x
  • 2 Corinthians 6:18 — And I will be a father to you, and you will be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.

[ Closing the “Frictions” ]

These friction points are guideposts more landmarks, not things to be fearful of.

Philippians 3:17 — Join in imitating me, brothers and sisters, and pay careful attention to those who live according to the example you have in us.

Paul mentions “pay attention to those” or take note of those who live according to the example you have in us. Who are some men that you have taken note of in your life? Men that you pay attention to and where they step, you want to step?

— “Do this”

— Do these kinds of things

— Find some other people who are just a bit ahead of you who can set a road cone ahead of you and help be your guide

In John Eldridge’s book “Fathered By God”

  • John is telling a story and ends with this: “As I drove home I knew the gift had been from God, that he had fathered me through this man.”
  • “We must be willing to take an enormous risk, and open our hearts to the possibility that God is initiating us as men — maybe even in the very things in which we thought he’d abandoned us. We open ourselves up to being fathered.”
  • “You are the son of a kind, strong, and engaged father, a father wise enough to guide you in the way, generous enough to provide for your journey, offering to walk with you every step.”

Ending: You are being so intentionally fathered by a God that has pursued you before you even arrived on the scene men. Regardless of your experience with your earthly father, let’s rest in that there is a “good good father” who loves you more than you can even fathom, and it’s because “it’s who you are. It’s who you are.” You’re loved by him. You’re loved by him.