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No Flame Blower Outers Here

THE SCENE: ‘Bout 88 and breezy
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER done
WARM-O-RAMA:
SSH, rockettes, this and that, runners stretch, and cherry pickers
THA-THANG:
Insert information about the workout.

  • Take all CMUs down 2 flights of stairs, 20 8 ct Spiders, CMU curls until the 6.
  • Bring CMUs up one flight, Run to road; 50 V Sit OH Claps, Run to trees; 50 kneel ups, Return to center, CMU curls until the 6.
  • Bring CMUs to the top and take them to the Bowl
  • Battle Buddy: one runs around the bench; the other Rows, OH Press, squats
  • Change Battle Buddy: one walks the CMU, the other does 20 Squats, run, catch, switch, repeat
  • In the Pit, 360 Merkins (L and R) return CMUs to Flag

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
12 Fake Gloomers
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:

Adapted from Brene Brown’s “Atlas of the Heart” Chapter 2.

Schadenfreude is a compound of the German words “schaden” meaning harm and “freude” meaning joy.  Schadenfreude simply means, “pleasure or joy derived from someone else’s suffering or misfortune”.  And the world is full of it these days.

Schadenfreude is an emotion typically born out of inferiority rather than superiority.  It is also born out of fear, powerlessness, and a sense of deservedness.  Schadenfreude involves counter empathy, where our emotional reaction is incongruent with another person’s emotional experience.

While schadenfreude may be fun to say, it’s a tough emotion.  There’s a cruelty and insecurity about it.  Taking pleasure in someone else’s failings, even if that person is someone we really dislike, can violate our values and lead to feelings of guilt and shame.

When we feel schadenfreude, it shuts down the area of our brain we use when feeling empathy and lights up areas of the brain that make us feel good and entices us to engage in similar behaviors in the future.  Schadenfreude is especially seductive when we are sucked into groupthink.

It’s easy to build counterfeit connection with collective schadenfreude.  When we see someone who we don’t like, disagree with, or is outside of our group stumble, fall, or fail, it’s tempting to celebrate that suffering together and to stir up collective emotion.  That kind of bonding might feel good for a moment, but nothing that celebrates the humiliation or pain of another person builds lasting connection.

We often don’t talk about our schadenfreude because it can make us feel shame or guilt.  This came up a lot during the pandemic when vaccinated people struggled with feelings of schadenfreude towards anti-VAX folks who were diagnosed with COVID.

From the book:  I remember thinking one day, “It this who I want to be?  Someone who celebrates people getting sick or dying?”  I would justify it by saying they were threatening my health and the health of the people I love. In the end I couldn’t make it work with my values.  I mean, I’m still angry, but without a viable accountability strategy, it’s hard not to let schadenfreude take over.

Freuden-freude is the opposite of schadenfreude.  It’s the enjoyment of another’s success.  When others report success to us, they generally hope for an empathic response of shared joy.  Which is freuden-freude.

If instead they get a negative, competitive reaction, they may respond with confusion, disappointment, irritation, or all three.  Ongoing lack of freuden-freude can eventually pose a fatal challenge to a relationship, and in turn, repeated relationship failures often produce depression.  We suspect that depressed folks might exhibit deficiencies in freuden-freude.

Brown concludes with…In teaching our kids how to cultivate meaningful connection with the people in their lives, we’ve always told them that good friends are not afraid of your light and never blow out your flame.  And you don’t blow out their flame.  Even when their flame is really bright and it makes you worry about your own flame.

When something good happens to you, they celebrate your flame.  When something good happens to them, you celebrate their flame.

We always have our kids hold out there hands, palms flat, and say “If this is your flame and the wind picks up, good friends cups their hands around your flame to keep it from going out.  And you do the same for them.”

We have always said, “No flame blower outers” and that’s our way of saying less schadenfreude and more freuden-freude.

What does this mean for the men of F3?

  • Look anywhere in the world right now and you will see people deriving joy from other’s failures or misfortune.
  • Schadenfreude can make you feel good and really get stirred up in groups of like-minded individuals…and we are a group…so we have to watch ourselves.
  • Because it’s an emotion that rewards the brain, we need an accountability strategy to be sure it doesn’t take over. We need to be that accountability for one another.
  • As leaders in our community, we need to ensure we are protecting and celebrating everyone’s flame. Remember, “no flame blower outers here”.
  • And if we are being good leaders, we will take joy in seeing other’s flames shine even brighter.

ANNOUNCEMENTS:
We have Goober in our thoughts and prayers.

Are You Ready?

THE SCENE: Beautiful, sunny, 85 degress. Low humidity and slight breeze, but the heat of summer cometh…
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER

Done
WARM-O-RAMA:

– 20 SSH IC

– 8 Tempo Merkins

– 8 Tempo Squats

– 8 Cherry Pickers (4-ct), in cadence

– 8 BAC forward, backward (4-ct, IC)

– Imperial Walkers until Swimmies joined us.

THA-THANG:

Mosey down Roadshow Run to path, admiring the nicely cut grass on Everest on the way down.

NICKLE DIME QUARTERS going south on the path.  (Run 1 light, do 5 reps, run 2 lights do 10 reps, run 5 lights, do 25 reps).

  1. Squats
  2. CDDs
  3. Dive Bombers

Mosey to Gravel circle near Field of Dreams.

NO MERCY (half) MILE

  • Near end: Lunge around turn
  • Run to ½ way point. 25 Merkins. Run to curve
  • Far End: Bear Crawl around turn
  • Run to ½ way point. 25 Squats. Run to Curve.
  • Rinse and Repeat.

Mosey to Roundabout south of the Colosseum, doing Imperial Squat Walkers and other maintenance exercises until 6 catches up.

Partner up.  One Partner runs to end of Roundabout, do 5 BBSs, 5 2-CT American Hammers, 5 Leg Lifts 3x increasing by 5 each time. Switch off after each set. Other partner does LBCs.

Return to AO

MARY:
Stretching with Pele. Ahhh…

steam
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
8 strong. Cheetah Boy not tagged.
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
Showed the PAX an inspirational video about F3 (hat tip to Blindside, who put it out on FB).  Here’s the transcript:

Make no mistake men. Every day you’re in a battle. A battle for your health. A battle for your family. A battle for your very soul. There are forces, seen and unseen, that want you to fail. They’re counting on you to fail. There are voices in your head that are reminding you of your past failures and telling you hey, stay in the comfort of your house, don’t come out to this work out, instead of getting out there, doing something difficult, and accelerating with other men who support you, and require your support in return. This is F3. There are no lone wolves. We’re a pack of men with a shared vision to plant, grow, and most importantly to serve, for the invigoration of male leadership in our community. We are… F3.

Are you ready?

MOLESKIN:
Prayers for Abscess’s recovery
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Launch of new AO in Farragut at the end of the Month, the RAMPART.  May charity drive is underway.  Details to be posted on SLACK.

Wondering Where The Lions Are

THE SCENE: Sunny and warm, temp in low eighties.
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER

THA-THANG:
20 Side Straddle Hops, 10 Burpees, 10 Twisties, 10 Rockettes, 10 Cherry Pickers, 10 Little Baby to Big Wide Arm Circles Forward and 10 Backward

We will mosey past the stop sign at the northeast corner of the Admin Bldg and go to the grassy area by the perimeter trail.  We will do 20 Flutter Kicks in the grass.  Next, will run west on the perimeter trail, stopping every ten lights to do ten of each of the following exercises.  Those arriving to the tenth light first will rinse and repeat until the six has done ten of each exercise.  Here are the exercises for each tenth light:

  • Merkins, Big Boys
  • Squat Jumps, Lunges (each leg = 1)
  • Carolina Dry Docks, Hello Dollies

Next, we will run to Area 51.  Stop at the area by the parking lot on the right.  We will split into teams of two.  While one team member does an exercise, the other runs to the curb at the end of area 51, does 10 jump squats, and runs back.  The partners then switch.  When each partner had done an exercise twice, they shift to the next exercise.  Here are the exercises:

  • Gas pumps
  • Rocky Balboas
  • Diamond Merkins
  • Iron Mikes

Next, we will run up the hill above Area 51 to roadway above the big tree.  Those getting there first will do bench dips until the six arrives.

Mosey to AO by running to gravel parking lot area, walking along the parking lot area, then running to AO.

Next we will do sprints to sign by parking lot and slow job back to where we started.  Repeat sprints three more times.  Then slow jog back to AO.

MARY:

35 Baby Crunches
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
15 showing, no FNGs.
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
Wondering Where The Lions Are

Have you heard or do you remember the story of Daniel and the Lion’s Den from the Bible?  Daniel was a Jew who was serving Darius, the King of Babylon or Prussia.  Daniel was an excellent administrator and King Darius liked him.  The other administrators and officials of King Darius were jealous of him.  They did know how strongly he worshipped his God.  They planned a scheme where , supposedly to celebrate the king, they convinced King Darius to issue a decree that any person in the kingdom who prayed to or worshipped any God or human for the next 30 days, other than King Darius, should be thrown in a Lion’s Den.  Daniel worshipped his God daily and continued to do so after the decree.  Caught, he was thrown in the Lions Den.  The next morning King Darius rushed to the den to find Darius alive, the ferocious lions acting tamely beside him.  King Darius, who cared for and admired Daniel then proclaimed:

“I issue a decree that in every part of my kingdom people must fear and reverence the God of Daniel. For he is the living God and he endures forever”.

As a psychologist, I see many people who suffer from anxiety.  I recently had my first session with a mid-thirties woman who suffers from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (anxiety that occurs after one suffers from a trauma), Social Anxiety (anxiety about being in social situations), and Agoraphobia (condition where a person panics if they leave their household). Ten years ago, she could hardly leave her home without breaking down. She even had difficulty answering phone calls, too anxious to talk to strangers.  Fortunately, she met a therapist who helped her out. He talked to her about how anxiety can be incredibly crippling but that some anxiety can be gradually overcome through something called exposure therapy.  If people, who have been frightened in the past, can expose themselves to the situation they fear and see that nothing disastrous happens, the anxiety can, over time, decrease.  He used a metaphor with my patient.  He said if we were to open a door and have a ferocious lion attack us, we would be very frightened of ever opening that door again, even if the lion was taken away and people tried to rationally convince us there was no lion there anymore.  We may panic trying to open the door and our hearts might pound like crazy.  But, each day, if we continued to open the door and see that no lion was there, we would gradually be less anxious about doing it.  We might not ever fully wipe out the anxiety but we would be better off.  That is what has happened to this lady.  She still gets nervous when going into public settings but can now do so.  And she wants to continue that process so that in the future, she will be even better at it.

In life, we face difficult and challenging situations.  We get burned sometimes in these situations or we fail at them.  We then fear trying similar situations.  We worry about the consequences.  We worry that we can’t face up to the situation.  But, if we can expose ourselves to the challenging situations and learn from them, we grow.  If we can trust that God is on our side, we can tame the lions we fear.

One of my favorite songwriters, Bruce Cockburn, wrote a song that talks about the ecstasy that comes with belief in God and His eternity.  He also talks about about how fear is diminished with the knowledge of this belief.  I will finish my message with some lines from that song which is entitled, “Wondering Where the Lions Are”:

Sun’s up . . . looks okay
The world survives into another day
And I’m thinking ’bout eternity
Some kinda ecstasy got a hold on me

I had another dream about lions at the door
They weren’t half as frightening as they were before
But I’m thinking ’bout eternity
Some kinda ecstasy got a hold on me.

And I’m wondering where the lions are
I’m wondering where the lions are
I’m wondering where the lions are.

MOLESKIN:

Prayers for safe travels for Pusher and Rusty on their vacation.  Prayers for Thunderstruck and his family after the death of his mother.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
CSAUP tomorrow night at Haw Ridge, 9 pm.

Matlock’s playlist

THE SCENE: 56 and wonderful
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:

Side stratal hop 20

Imperial squat walker 10

Baby arm circles 10

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THA-THANG:

Mosey around the Asylum.  Do a burpee every time a random PAX can’t name that tune from Madlocks play list.

Escalator 

Stop 1- 5 up downs

Stop 2- 10 hand release  mericans 

Stop 3 – add 15  froggy squats 

Stop 4- add 20 4x lbc

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
Use the TAGS on right-side to record PAX (BE SURE TO INCLUDE YOURSELF) in attendance. Be sure to select the AO in CATEGORY above TAGS and then delete these notes!
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
Men are the least like to be a mentor, there are over 59 kids on the waiting list for a mentor most of them boy how could benefit from a HIM a few hours a month.

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The Myth of Talent

THE SCENE: Scrumptiously perfect.  Low 70s, partly cloudy, very light breeze
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER

You know the drill.
WARM-O-RAMA:

20 SSHs (4-CT, IC) / 10 Steve Earles (4-CT, IC) / 10 WINDMILLS (4-CT, IC) / 10 Tempo Merkins (4-CT, IC) / 10 BACs forward and backward (4-CT, IC)

THA-THANG:

MOSEY to Field below Colosseum.

Do a KRAKEN.  Five cones.   Do 5 reps of 3 exercises (Carolina Dry Docks/Squats/BBS) at Cone 1, then run around circle plus one cone.  Add 5 reps to each cone until back at cone one, so last cone will have 25x each exercise

MOSEY to Area 51.

MUCHO CHESTO (10 Merkins, 10 Wide Ms, 10 Diamond Ms, 10 Staggered Ms Left and 10 Right)

MOSEY to EVEREST.  BERNIE to the Summit until failure, run the rest of the way.

At the Base of the Summit:

HILLS AND ABS:

  • 10 LBCs, 10 BBSs, run up the hill and back. R&R 3 more times adding 10 reps to exercises.

MARY:
Bear Crawl Ring of fire (Bear crawl in a circle 1 rotation, then PAX do 5 merkins each, R&R).

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
13 strong (Cheetah Boy not tagged)
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
Read Kurt Vonnegut’s quote during an interview where he told an archeologist about his varied interests, but how he was not good at any of them.  The archeologist replied how important it was to gain those experiences regardless of “success” at the endeavors.  This forever changed Vonnegut’s perception of himself and of succuss vs. failure.  Don’t feel that endeavors you pursue are not worthwhile just because you don’t reach a high level of success at them.  This is the myth of talent.  Success is not driven by society or your peer base, but how your experiences shape you and how you find joy in them.
MOLESKIN:
Prayers of praise for Cheetah Boy finishing the Harry Potter series.  Prayers to be with Brick and Matlock as they spread the message of their journey. Prayers for Steam and his coworkers.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Haw Ridge CSAUP, one week from tomorrow!