F3 Knoxville

No Hard Feelings

THE SCENE: Cloudy, temp in 50s
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:

20 Side Straddle Hops, 10 Imperial Squat Walkers, 10 Gas Pumps, 10 Tempo Merkins, 10 Plank Jacks, 10 Windmills, 10 Twisties.
THA-THANG:
Mosey to Bat Cave.  We will do the following going counterclockwise:

  • Run down stairs and do 20 Carolina Dry Docks.
  • Run to grove of trees at climb of Mt. Everest and do 10 Burpees.
  • Run to summit of Mt. Everest and do 20 Hello Dollies.
  • Run to Bat Cave and do 20 Star Jumps.
  • Rinse and repeat two more times.

Mosey to stop sign at southeastern corner of Administration Bldg.  Do 20 American Hammers.

Mosey to Area 51.  We will split into teams of two for Doras.  While one partner runs to the curb by the hill at Area 51, does 5 decline merkins, then runs back, the other partner works on the exercises listed below.  Teammates then switch.  Here are the exercises:

  • 200 Rocky Balboas, both feet = 1.
  • 200 Flutter Kicks, both feet = 1.
  • 200 Bicycle Kicks, both feet = 1
  • 200 Baby Crunches

Mosey to park entrance on Northshore, then take perimeter trail past the utility bldg.  We will stop to do 20 lunges, both legs = 1.

Mosey to bottom of Mt. Everest.  We will stop to do 50 Baby Crunches.  We will then run up Everest.  Those reaching the roadway first do more Baby Crunches until the six is there.

Run to top of the Space Needle and then mosey to the AO.

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
Ten men, no FNGs.

CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:

NO HARD FEELIMGS

I gave a message about this topic and this song by the Avett Brothers a few years ago.  I think the topic is important enough and the song is amazing enough to cover again.  The topic is Forgiveness and the song by the Avett brothers is “No Hard Feelings.”

The Lord commands us to forgive.  In the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus taught us to pray, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”  In Matthew 6:14 Jesus says, “If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”  And, in discussing the idea of forgiveness, Jesus said to forgive one who has sinned against you not seven times but seventy times seven times.

These commandments are made not only for the benefit of those who have sinned against us but for us who must do the forgiving.  If we hang on to the anger, the bitterness, the hurt of being wronged, these “hard feelings” can eat us up inside.  In their song, “No Hard Feelings”, the Avett brothers recognize the destructiveness that unforgiving hard feelings can have despite the goodness that life offers us:

Lord knows they haven’t done
Much good for anyone
Kept me afraid and cold
With so much to have and hold.

Yet in their song, the Avett brothers recognize the difficulty that we, as humans, have in forgiving.  It is difficult enough those people in that other political party or the neighbors who keep their front yard messy.  But how do we forgive someone who has truly hurt us or one of our family members?  The quality of “true forgiveness” is a Christ-like virtue that we must continually strive to attain.  The narrator hopes for that state by saying,

When the sun hangs low in the west
And the light in my chest
Won’t be kept held at bay any longer
When the jealousy fades away
And it’s ash and dust for cash and lust
And it’s just hallelujah
And love in thoughts and love in the words
Love in the songs they sing in the church
And no hard feelings.

The fact is that we humans, as sinners, find it so very hard to forgive.  Christ asks us to turn the other cheek.  That takes a bravery that is quite difficult for us to muster.  In the Avett Brothers song, the narrator looks at his own life and wonders if by his death he can accomplish the task.  The song uses a beautiful image of walking straight to the life after death and running into the savior.   The narrator of the song yearns for the final result of godlike forgiveness within himself by chanting the final line of the song four straight times:

Will I join with the ocean blue
Or run into the savior true
And shake hands laughing
And walk through the night
Straight to the light
Holding the love I’ve known in my life
And no hard feelings

Lord knows they haven’t done
Much good for anyone
Kept me afraid and cold
With so much to have and hold
Under the curving sky
I’m finally learning why
It matters to me and you
To say it and mean it too
For life and its loveliness
And all of its ugliness
Good as it’s been to me
I have no enemies
I have no enemies
I have no enemies
I have no enemies.

MOLESKIN:
Prayers for Down Under’s son, Hunter, age 17, who had hoped to go into military after high school where he is in ROTC.  He learned that due to a medical condition, he will not be qualified to go into the military.  Prayers of thanks for the mother of Steam’s future bride.  Steam’s future mother-in-law found out that her breast cancer is now in remission after chemotherapy and radiation.  Prayers for our brother, Sparkler, as he continues to recover from his rotator cuff surgery.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Board Meeting!

Drum Major 51

THE SCENE: A beautiful sunny evening at about 70 degrees.
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:

51 single count side straddle hops

10 windmills

5 merkins/1 burpee

10 baby arm circles each way

Little of this and that

10 rockettes

5 big boys/1 burpee

THA-THANG:

Mosey to hill by wall just up mini-cardiac

5/1’s

5 box jumps/step ups up top

1 big boy at bottom

Until get to 1 at top and 5 at bottom

 

Mosey to rock pile along path on park’s east side

15 curls

15 overhead press

21 rows

(2nd 51)

15 triceps

15 front lifts

21 squats

 

(rinse and repeat everything)

 

Mosey to the Bermuda Triangle

Battle buddy up

1 buddy runs to hill and back while other stays and knocks out

51 squats

51 imperial walkers

51 merkins

51 LBCs

 

Mosey to base of Everest

15 flutter kicks

5 burpees/1 big boys

5 burpees/1 merkin

Then released everyone to run the summit of Everest and then all the way to the AO. Have to do 51 hand release merkins split up as each sees fit by the time or at the AO meetup.

MARY:
15 box cutters and some post workout stretches to finish us off
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
Use the TAGS on right-side to record PAX (BE SURE TO INCLUDE YOURSELF) in attendance. Be sure to select the AO in CATEGORY above TAGS and then delete these notes!
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
Discussed how leadership involves letting go and trusting those you lead to be be good leaders, people and citizens in your absence. I then read the following quotes on the subject:

No man will make a great leader who wants to do it all himself, or to get all the credit for doing it. —Andrew Carnegie

A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves. —Lao Tzu

The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint enough to keep from meddling with them while they do it. —Theodore Roosevelt

A good leader is a person who takes a little more than his share of the blame and a little less than his share of the credit. —John Maxwell

MOLESKIN:
Insert any personal comments, notes, devotion content, etc.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Insert information about upcoming events, 2nd or 3rd F opportunities, and any other announcements.

Parents These Days

THE SCENE: Gloom in the Fake Gloom.  A nasty, rainy, awesome evening.
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER  Did it
WARM-O-RAMA:

SSH, motivator, cherry pickers, twisties, rockettes
THA-THANG:
Insert information about the workout.

  • Triple battle buddies in the Caribbean
    • Jump squats and big boys
    • Merkins and big boys
    • Mountain Climbers and flutter kicks
  • Feel the burn
    • Wall sit
    • Ring of Fire push up
    • Ring of Fire squats
  • Alternating 10x flutter kicks and hello dolly
  • Star gazer in the rain

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
11 soaking wet PAX

CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
In recently reading a book called “10 Rules for Resilience” by Joe DeSena (founder of Spartan Race), he said something obvious, but in a way that punched me in the gut.  He said he was tired of hearing people say “kids these days”.  Kids are born today the same way they’ve been born forever.  He argues we should really be saying “parents these days” because we – as the parents – are the difference in how kids are growing up now compared to in the past.  In large part, kids today are how kids are today because parents today raise kids the way we raise them today.  I know it’s not that simple in every situation, but the point is we as fathers have a lot of responsibility for who our kids are, their values, etc. We have to take ownership of that and we cannot hide behind “kids these days” as an excuse.

ANNOUNCEMENTS:
CSAUP Feb 26

Tuesday Evening Big Circle

THE SCENE: Beautiful afternoon over 60 degrees at the start. Clear and a lot of people in the Asylum enjoying a pretty day.
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER
WARM-O-RAMA:

  • Side straddle hops
  • Rockettes
  • Baby arm circles
  • Little of this and that
  • Imperial Squat walkers
  • 5 Burpees

THA-THANG:

Mosey to base of Pickett’s Charge

 

Picketts charge suicide

1st –  5 prisoner getups

2nd – 10 imperial walkers

 

10 merkins at bottom before and after each time down

 

LBCs up top until 6 comes in

 

Big circle stations

 

Start at coliseum and go all the way up to top of Everest/office parking lot and back around to coliseum start

 

Stop at each cone do exercise listed and follow instruction of where to go next and how

 

Coliseum start

  • 15 dips
  • Lunges to next cone

 

Cone 1 – halfway down walk

  • 15 big boys
  • Bear crawl to next

 

Cone 2 – little ways down

  • 20 squats
  • Karaoke to next cone

 

Cone 3 – halfway to stop sign

  • 10 no touch merkins
  • Sprint to next cone

 

Cone 4 – stop sign

  • 15 2 count flutter kicks
  • Bernie to next cone

 

Cone 5 – end of guardrail

  • 15 bobby hurleys
  • Run to next cone

 

Cone 6 – top of hill by parking lot

  • 15 merkins
  • Skip to next cone

 

Cone 7 – little ways down back of the hill

  • 15 2 count rocky balboas
  • Go all the way backwards to the 6 and repeat all cones you go back past
  • After coming back the 2nd time and doing Rocky Balboas again karaoke to the next cone

 

Cone 8 – stop sign area

  • 15 2 count hello dollys
  • Run to next cone

 

Cone 9 – up by pathway to Coliseum

  • 5 burpees
  • Lunges to next cone

 

Cone 10 – little ways down path

  • 10 star jumps
  • Bernie to starting spot of Coliseum and do LBCs until the 6 comes in

5 Motivators before running back to the AO for the word.

MARY:
n/a
COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
Use the TAGS on right-side to record PAX (BE SURE TO INCLUDE YOURSELF) in attendance. Be sure to select the AO in CATEGORY above TAGS and then delete these notes!
CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:
Discussed the following:

Kurt Vonnegot story about Joseph Heller:

I said, “Joe, how does it make you feel
to know that our host only yesterday
may have made more money
than your novel ‘Catch-22’
has earned in its entire history?”
And Joe said, “I’ve got something he can never have.”
And I said, “What on earth could that be, Joe?”
And Joe said, “The knowledge that I’ve got enough.”

“Don’t make stuff because you want to make money — it will never make you enough money. And don’t make stuff because you want to get famous — because you will never feel famous enough,” John Green

MOLESKIN:
Q was followed by a well attended and lively Board Meeting at the Asylum to cap off a great evening.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
CSAUP end of February

Clear is Kind, Unclear is Unkind

THE SCENE: 40 degrees and beautiful beat down weather
F3 WELCOME & DISCLAIMER done
WARM-O-RAMA:

SSH, rockettes, cherry pickers, runners stretch, this and this, and twisties just for Lillydipper
THA-THANG:

  • Battle Buddy – one runs the Dragon, other CMU front raise, side rotations, overhead press
  • Battle Buddy – one runs and does flutter squats, or does ankle biters and butterfly sit-ups
  • Battle Buddy – one runs and does CMU rows, dead-lifts, curls, and rows, the other does bear crawl should taps and kneel ups

COUNT-OFF & NAME-O-RAMA
12

CIRCLE OF TRUST/BOM:

Being very non-confrontational by nature, Candor has been a challenge for me. Q Source 3.8 says about Candor “While there are many Truths, only the hard ones require Candor.  The easy Truths take care of themselves.  Whether a Truth is hard or easy depends upon the effect it has on the person hearing it.  If it has no impact or brings them Happiness, it is an easy Truth.  Easy Truths do not require character to tell because there is no particular Virtue in being the bearer of good news. Hard Truths are different, because hearing them, results in Pain and Disruption.”

I also justified it to myself that sparing that Pain and Disruption was a good thing for the other person, until reading the book “Radical Candor” by Kim Scott.  She describes Candor as a combination of 1) caring personally for the individual you’re interacting with and 2) challenging directly the matter at hand.  She describes those who care a lot, but don’t willing to challenge directly, as demonstrating “Ruinous Empathy”.

RUINOUS EMPATHY.

Especially for the workplace…

“It’s simple but transformative.  Clear is kind.  Unclear is unkind.  Not getting clear with a colleague about your expectations because it feels too hard, yet holding them accountable, or blaming them for not delivering is unkind.” ~Brene Brown

ANNOUNCEMENTS:  CSAUP Feb 26